Confusing someone who’s mean to you can be an effective way to deflect negativity without stooping to their level. Here are a few ways to do it:
- Mirror them: Repeat back what they say in a neutral tone, like you’re genuinely curious. This can make them realize how their words sound, without you needing to engage directly.
- Use playful sarcasm: Say something like, “Wow, you must have worked really hard to come up with that one!” or “You’re really bringing your A-game today, aren’t you?”
- Act like you didn’t hear them: Pretend you didn’t catch what they said and ask them to repeat themselves, maybe even twice. They might start feeling uncomfortable and rethink their comment.
- Curious questions: Instead of reacting, ask them questions about why they feel that way. For instance, “That’s interesting—what makes you say that?” This approach may make them rethink their own motives.
- Laugh it off: Laugh genuinely or pretend to think they’re joking. If they’re rude, laugh and say, “You’re too funny!” This deflects their negativity and can help break the tension.
- Smile and say nothing: Sometimes, a simple, calm smile says everything. Hold eye contact, smile slightly, and don’t react. Silence can be so unexpected that they may feel awkward or unsure of how to continue.
- Point out their effort: “Wow, you’re really putting a lot of energy into this!”
- Just say “Excuse me, you have something stuck in your teeth. This makes them self-conscious and you can stop them from being mean.